None of us really goes through this life unscathed, but for some there can be hurtful memories from the past whether from family issues, abuse, trauma, job loss, health issues etc.
It is so easy to fall into the pitfall of the What If thinking. I have to admit at times in my life What Ifs have dragged me down.
What If my father had not lost his business and found our he was diabetic when I was 12. What If he had not retreated in his vodka.
What If I had not experienced a serious health crisis and had to leave the school where I was studying for the ministry.
I know the What Ifs all to well.
But two scripture verses raise me up.
Romans 8:28- And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
God is always at work in my life to bring everything together for my good.
Ephesians 2:10- For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
God created me with abilities and talents to match what he is calling me to.
So how do I turn the What Ifs around when they try to raise their ugly heads?
What I do is change the What Ifs. Examples:
What If I had not had my health crisis 1993 to 1995. I would not have been led to what I do now.
What If I had not been through what I have been through. I would not have met the people Jesus has blessed me with meeting, sharing his love with, and helping.
What If my family life had not been so messed up. I would not have the empathy for others that I have now.
By changing my What Ifs, it keeps my focus on Jesus and his calling on my life. It helps to keep things like despair, self pity, etc out of my life.
Thank you for reading. God Bless.